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They Shoot Single People, Don’t They - Scarlett Plott

April 1, 2025·50 min·4 clips

Scarlett admits she's never had bad lesbian sex or faked an orgasm, unlike many straight women.

This episode of "And Just Like That... We Found Therapy" analyzes Season 2, Episode 4 of *Sex and the City*, titled "They Shoot Single People, Don't They?". Host Scarlett, co-host of the Lesbian Supper Club podcast, joins to discuss the episode's themes of singlehood and societal pressure. The conversation centers on Carrie Bradshaw's embarrassing magazine cover labeling her "single and fabulous," which sparks anxiety among her friends. Scarlett and the host dissect a scene where Samantha claims that even in a couple, a person is ultimately alone, with Scarlett agreeing that individuals bear sole responsibility for their own happiness. They detail Carrie's disastrous, hungover photo shoot for the magazine and her subsequent public embarrassment. The hosts note how the magazine article pressures Miranda, Charlotte, and Samantha to seek out male companionship out of fear. A key storyline involves Samantha being love-bombed and then stood up by a man named William, which prompts a discussion on dating patterns. The analysis covers Carrie's defiant decision to go out alone, culminating in a date with a young Bradley Cooper where she walks away to avoid using him for validation. Miranda's storyline about faking orgasms leads to a comparison of sexual dynamics between heterosexual and lesbian relationships. Scarlett shares that, in her experience, faking orgasms is rare in lesbian relationships, attributing this to a greater conscious effort to please a partner. The episode concludes with Carrie bravely having lunch alone in a restaurant, a act presented as a personal victory. An interesting insight is the application of the "sunk cost" theory to explain why people stay in unhappy relationships. Scarlett observes that "fuckboy" behavior and rapid, intense "situationships" also exist within the lesbian dating community. The hosts humorously note that in lesbian social circles, one is never more than two people removed from an ex-girlfriend. They agree that societal pressure, particularly concerning aging and reproduction, often drives people to settle for unfulfilling partnerships. The tone is conversational, analytical, and often humorous, with personal anecdotes woven into the critique of the show's narrative. Listeners who enjoy deep-dive analyses of *Sex and the City* with modern, queer perspectives will appreciate this episode. Those seeking a straightforward recap without personal commentary or tangential discussions might find it less engaging.

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A brisk recap that turns Carrie's performance of being single and fabulous into sharper questions about dating and connection.

This episode treats a Sex and the City recap as a conversation about dating and connection. Scarlett brings a grounded take on lesbian dating, where red flags can be easy to spot and still hard to walk away from, while the discussion keeps shifting between plot points and the…

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Carrie's cigarette run turns into a sharp, messy map of single-girl swagger and social judgment.

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